My Healing Process

Here, I share with you an easy-to-follow approach to assist you as you work to harmonize your trauma. The biggest thing to remember is that there is no timeline for healing, just trust your heart to know when the time is right for each step. 

Be good to yourself during any healing process, paying close attention to EVERYTHING you allow into your body, mind, and space around you.

Remember, I am not a mental health professional, I am simply sharing the steps I’ve taken which which allowed me to see and break free from toxic, trauma based patterns of fear and self-destruction.

1. Learn what you can about the possible physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual effects of each of the types of traumas you've experienced. You do not need to focus on the specific event - just look at the search for information as something like a school or work project- your emotions do not need to be attached to the information you find; you are simply researching the topic given to you. If you become overwhelmed, you can take a break and come back to this when you feel safer and more balanced within yourself. 

2. Notice where you see issues in your life mirrored back to you in the information you encounter. Pay particular attention to any patterns of thinking, speaking, and behaving that are destructive, compulsive, or addictive. The goal here is not to judge, but to see where there are patterns of unhealthy or unhelpful habits.

3. After you have a clearer understanding of some of the behaviors and coping skills you developed as a result of your traumas, you can start searching for resources to help you change or manage them. Some habits won't take much time to adjust, but others could take months or years. Be patient with yourself and allow your healing to expand at its own pace.

4. Commit to holding space for yourself to heal. This means giving yourself permission to both rest and to play. This also requires that you become aware of where you are devoting your time, attention, and energy. Be intentional about spending time doing things with people that bring you joy and set boundaries that will help you maintain your focus on healing and peace.

5. Make small upgrades to your life by changing the words you use to describe and share it. Train yourself to use uplifting language when you speak to yourself as well as others. Let your thoughts, words, and actions reflect the type of relationship you want to have with yourself and the people around you. 

I know that changing our toxic habits is difficult. The first step in solving any problem is to recognize what the problem is. Your presence here is an indication that you know there is something misaligned with what you want for your life. Give yourself the gift of self-discovery and see what you can do when you harmonize your trauma and heal into your potential. Make sure you subscribe today to stay in touch and get updates on new resources and upcoming programs and workshops!